FIRST CHILD SYNDROME

Firstborn syndrome is messing with my head.
It's more of a burden, because it has made me make nor take hard decisions.

Expectations from families are always high, pressure immense,
To be perfect, flawless and to be supportive.

The trailblazer, the pioneer brave,
Forging ahead, every path to pave.
But oh, the weight of being the first,
To carry the hopes of siblings as the eldest child, has messed me up.

Love life's and relationships left shattered with no words said, interwoven with heavy duty of the first born responsibilities. This syndrome is really messing with my head.

Yearning for freedom, for a chance to be with the ones we love, not to be pressured to do what we don't want.

First born syndrome is messing with my head.
To break free from this chain that bind, 
To seek solace, a peace of mind.

The world should also understand the fact that we've got responsibilities on our shoulders, and we're literally ready to pick up this challenge and stand firm and act as the first and not the last.

Lots of expectations and responsibilities are there looking forth to all first born, in all families.

To the hearts we've hurt in the process of fulfilling our responsibilities, saying sorry isn't enough.

Things a man find attractive in a woman

 Certainly! Here are 9 things that many men often appreciate in a woman:

1. An independent woman 

2. Intelligent and attractive woman 

3. A woman who ask for help 

4. A Confident woman

5. Be his better half

6. A good listener 

7. A woman that makes her man look good.

8. Likes a presentable woman

9. Good communication skills

1. While a relationship is about bonding and spending time together, it’s also a lot more about growing as individuals. Become a better person every single day, and help him along the path too. Spend some time by yourselves or with your own friends, and learn to give space in a relationship.

2. An intelligent and attractive woman

No man likes an attractive woman with a low mentality, all men trip for women with good looks that possess a brain box. A lady that can represent him in public.

3. The way she presents herself

It’s always easier to attract attention from men when you make an effort to look good and dress well. A golden fish has no hiding place. Dressing good exclude dressing shamelessly, you mustn't dress half naked to attract a good man but rather a playboy.

4. Confidence is such a turn on in a woman, and men are suckers for it, even if they don’t realize it themselves. 

A confident woman is awed inspiring and, to a certain extent, intimidating. If there’s anything that men want in a woman, this is it. A confident woman is beautiful, strong, determined and everything else rolled up into one, just as long as she is being herself and not living someone else's life.

5. Everyone knows why the other person in a relationship is called the better half of the relationship. It’s not an empty compliment. Help your man become a better individual by helping him correct his flaws and shortcomings and by giving him the room to correct your flaws.

6. A good listener 

Be a good listener and understand what’s really going on in his life. Help him with his big decisions when he asks you for advice. Spend time with him and help him realize his dreams and aspirations. Make him a better man, and he’ll love you, respect you, and desperately want you all his life.

7. A woman who makes her man look good

Do you make your man look good? Now we don’t mean this in an accessory or arm candy way though. Do you stand up for your man in public no matter what? A man that cares about a lady loves rescuing her in her distress, but at times, the knight would be grateful to be rescued sometimes.

Brag about him when you’re out with friends, avoid bitching about him or correcting him in front of other people, and let him do the same for you.

8. First and foremost, if a guy finds you attractive, it’s because of you. Sure, what you wear may help, but what comes out of your mouth is even more important.

You want him to like you – and not only just your face and body. Because at the end of the day, that’s all gonna fade – yes, it sounds scary.

9. Good communication skill

Clear communication is something that men want and need. Men love communicating freely and clearly. Do not speak to your man in riddles. Do not expect them to read between the lines. Just talk and let it all out.

When you tell your man what you want and need, he will deliver.

Please keep in mind that preferences can vary from person to person, and these are just general aspects that some men might find attractive in a woman.

My Valentine Special

In the deepest part of my heart, a secret sits, It's all about a love that blossoms beneath starlit skies. Whispers of affection in gentle breeze, A symphonic longing that'll never cease.

My valentine, my treasure, my heart's delight, In your presence, love takes its flight in all directions.

Your smile, like a sunbeam, warming my days, your touch, a caress that sets my soul ablaze. 

Oh, my valentine, words has failed to express my feelings.
In every verse, a vow I'll keep, this is eternal and true, I tell you. For you, my love, forever I'll cherish. 

In your eyes, lies a universe I'll always love to visit. Our love story, written with each moment's cast.
Hand in hand, we'll dance in the room, the moonlight as a candle, giving a romantic touch, a tender embrace, a kiss on the forehead.

“My valentine special”, my everyday tribute to adore,

The celebration of love isn't complete without you.
With every beat, the rhythm of our hearts are entwined.

My valentine, my soul mate, My forever and eternal.

Dedicated to

Ayebaiduate

MISSING VIBES

In our connection, a subtle shift I feel,
A hollowness has settled, where once the vibes were real.
The rhythm of our love, once vibrant and complete,
Now echoes with a silence, like a missing heartbeat.
We danced upon the moonbeams, our laughter filled the air,
Every touch, every whisper, a symphony so rare.
But somewhere in the chaos, we lost our harmonious sway,
And now I yearn to find again, the vibes that slipped away.
Like an unfinished melody, the notes hanging in the air,
Longing for the harmony we used to effortlessly share.
Our souls, once intertwined, now seem to drift apart,
Leaving behind a void, a longing in my heart.
I search for the connection we once held so tight,
But the silence lingers on, like a starless, endless night.
The sparks that once ignited, now flicker, dim and fade,
Leaving behind a question mark, a feeling of dismay.
Oh, how I miss those vibes, the energy so pure,
The way we understood, without words, for sure.
But perhaps this absence is a whisper to be heard,
A call to rediscover the magic, and not be deterred.
For love is not a constant, it ebbs and flows like the tide,
And sometimes we must navigate the rough seas, side by side.
So let us not surrender to this missing vibe we feel,
But instead, seek to reignite the flame, make it real.
Let's find the missing notes and weave them back together,
Let's breathe life into our love, make it stronger than ever.

HIS TRUST ISSUES

In the mist of love, where hearts entwine,
A tale unfolds, a story so fine,
Where two souls meet, their destinies aligned,
Yet trust's absence casts doubt in her mind.
Her heart, once open, filled with hope,
Now hesitates, unable to cope,
For his trust issues, like a shadow, loom,
Casting doubts, creating a sense of gloom.
She sees the wounds from his past, so deep,
The scars that haunt, the secrets he keeps,
But she, determined, tries to understand,
To hold his hand, to guide him to a better land.
Yet his trust issues, like a raging tide,
Threaten to tear apart the love they built.
She questions if she can withstand the strain,
Or if it's best to walk away, release the pain.
But deep within her tender heart, she knows,
That love's true essence, through darkness, grows,
She yearns to be the light that leads him through,
To conquer his fears, to heal and renew.
For love, dear friends, is not without its trials,
It tests our faith, uncovers hidden denials,
But in the crucible of trust's fiery test,
A love that's true will rise above the rest.
So she gathers strength, deep within her core,
To confront the doubts, the very ones built in his heart, having the hopes to heal his past and make him trust once more,
For love's worth fighting for, worth the fight,
Well I've decided to give it another room, her love unwavering,
Through doubts and fears, their bond engraving,
With patience and compassion, she will stay,
To mend his heart, and trust's doubts allay.
For in her heart, she knows it to be true,
That love's power can heal, make all things new,
And though his trust issues may cause her strife,
walking beside him I'll do, throughout this life, she said within her.

HARDSHIP

 I'm stuck in the middle of nowhere, a place I called home as made me homeless.

HARDSHIP, has taken over the land, my country, Our giant of Africa it (HARDSHIP), has buried our slogan in the mud and has made us forgotten who we were years ago.

We've become beggars in our own land, we've become labourers in our own fields. 

Brave youths are made hopeless, there's nothing to live for, some may say and some have said. 

Parents has made it a family business to exchange their kids for food, hardship drives.

My country has become the land of the unknown,our country has become famous for its bad deeds and not the good.

Kidnapping has become a white collar job that pays well in our country, children has turned against parents, parents against children just as mentioned in the Bible.

killing of humans has become everyday routine. Some has encountered how it feels to be kidnapped, some has witnessed the pain of seeing the lives of their loved ones forcefully taken from them, speechless they've become, the shock won't let them say a word about what their eyes have seen.

Timi Eunice Ingonabo

ANCIENT NEMBE

Ancient Nembe, cast in iron

Your warriors fought with a will never tire

Your way of life is strong and true.

In all you do, you stay ever so true

Your masks and drums echo in the night

Your stories of realms unknown, so enlightening and bright.

Your warriors, I wish I can say they still protect the truth

In ways beyond what some may misconstrue.

Your culture entwined with nature's grace

You take great care in preserving your place in your days,

Your mysteries and secrets though, remain untold.

And still your people will never get old in our memories.

Ancient Nembe, you still stand proud and far beyond the present 

Your culture is a treasure, never to be clouded.

Your past shone bright, I wish I can say same for the present.

Your legacy told in stories, stories never to be untold.